I was recently asked how I stay so happy. Honestly, I see it as a choice. I can let the crap get me down or I can find the happy in each day – even if it takes some work.
Some days it’s harder to fight than others. It’s a given in this weird, sometimes twisted, interesting, but also wonderful world we live in. Lately though, there’s been more of the seemingly not so good going on. (I’m talking general. While I’ve had a rough few days, hopefully it was mostly from getting glutened and sorting itself out.)
I get it. I do. There’s some shit out there to deal with. And holy crap, politics, world events, and icky people don’t help matters.
So when I’m struggling, here’s a few things I do
- I think about the people who are there for me and why I love them. My family and friends are fiercely supportive, loving, protective, kind, funny, ridiculous people. Thinking about some of my favorites brings a smile to my face.
- I write down happy thoughts, things I’ve accomplished recently, or good things about a particular day. Doing this helps shift my mind set. Even if the best part about a day is that I didn’t get by a bus, that’s a good thing! (If I’m having a hard time doing this, I will ask someone else for the best part of their day. I’m often lifted by other’s happy moments and successes. I feel like it’s just a matter of time before it’s “my turn”.)
- I reach out to others who may also be struggling and/or check in on people I love. Even lending an ear to someone who may need it more than I do helps. It might be a distraction or a change in perspective, but it gets me out of my own head.
Those are the biggest ones that help the most. There’s other things too though. I might do something active. Yoga, a swim, a run, or yard work. Sometimes I cut down branches.
I go to my happy places. Most often I pick up a favorite book, find something funny on the internet or pictures of cute animals (#brodsmontana). I might bake something from Mehmere’s collection, cheat at making spaghetti sauce or go shopping and buy something in every color like Nanny. I might color, crochet, spray paint something to give it a new life, or any number of crafty things. Or take a nap. (I find that happy places and naps are good preemptive measures.)
I also know that the bad feelings are temporary and they don’t define me. Sometimes taking a deep breath and reminding myself of that helps the most.
What do you do when you’re going through a tough spell?