For me, decisions are not generally difficult to make. I choose an option and go with it. When things get a little more tricky than what shoes to wear with an outfit or what to have for dinner, I weigh the pros and cons and decide. If things are trickier than that, I ask for thoughts from friends and what my gut thinks.
My gut is generally right.
Sometimes I make decisions that go directly against what I want, think I want, or should want, but what I think is best for me.
Here are three of those decisions:
- Taking a year off of school half way through college. I had been going full steam ahead for way too long at that point. Couple with the general feeling of needing a break, a seriously traumatic event and the fall out after, and not knowing what to do with my life after dropping the premed/science thing, well, I was in a really bad place and needed to get my head together before I could fix anything else. The car accident I shouldn’t have walked away from at the end of the ridiculously fun and horrifically wild summer gave me a chance to start over.
- Leaving a very good paying job for one in the not for profit sector.At first glance, people thought I was nuts. Why would I leave a really good paying job with the opportunity to travel to far away places on someone else’s dime? I’ll tell you why. Sanity. To save what little sanity and liver I had left, I had to find something else to do. I was drinking too much, too stressed out and not having the time or desire to do the things I really enjoyed.Since leaving, I drink less, shop less, have hobbies again and feel like me again. Yes I took a pay cut to come here, but I have since made up that difference between the pool and raises. I have more time to myself, significantly less stress, and mostly nicer people for clients. I was also able to get back blogging and more into social media….which is where I met that guy I’m marrying and opened some other cool doors too. I think it worked out well.
- Breaking up with the guy who would have given me the world, but on his terms.I dated this guy, D, for a really long time (to me). We met through work when I wasn’t going to school. Because I wasn’t going to school, a good portion of my family wasn’t speaking to me for reasons that I do not understand, but understand that they were their own. D offered me love, attention, affection, a family that embraced me with open arms and a certain amount of security.I quickly discovered that it was on his terms though. Without getting into the nastiness of it all, things went south quickly when I returned to school, started finding my voice and confidence again and decided that I wasn’t taking his crap anymore (and many many thank yous to the friends and MJ who helped me figure that all out. Seriously I owe you guys big time.) While it took MJ throwing up on my feet, Lance and Chris making me realize that I was totally worth more than how D was treating me and that someone else in fact did want me and a seemingly endless onslaught of hateful phone calls, emails and messages from D, I ended it.It was one of the hardest things I ever had to do…not because of him, but I truly loved his family.
(Please note that I don’t like to say bad things about D for one very good reason: He is the one who pushed me to go back to school which lead to me finding me again. I will forever be thankful that he did so.)
What’s the best decision you’ve ever made?