Please welcome back Voice of Reason! Today she’s talking about support which is essential to this whole weight loss process. Whether it’s a partner, a friend, or a meeting, those who have support in this process do better with it than those who are on their own with it.
Whether you are trying to lose weight on your own or going through a program like me, you need to have support. In my experience, it is difficult to do this journey solely on your own.
I am lucky that I have a supportive husband in this weight-loss journey. In a way, I wish I could be that support person for him. He has not decided to take the reins in getting his weight under control. You know as well as I do… it’s a personal decision.
My husband is the cook in our family. He shops, plans, and prepares the meals for our little family of three. He does his best to make sure that the meals fall within the point guidelines that I follow under Weight Watchers. For me, that takes the pressure off of me in trying to come up with meals that I can eat. I like to think that I am a decent (albeit it an unimaginative) cook. You see, I am more of a baker than a cook. If you are a cook and/or baker, you know that there is a difference.
My husband recently left for a week long work trip. He helped me come up with a meal plan that was easy to cook and follows my plan so that I can concentrate on taking care of our daughter and household duties. It’s not easy to do it all as a single parent. (Major kudos to all the single parents out there!)
With his absence, I came to the conclusion that I may have become too dependent on his support. I also find myself being a little bit jealous (and therefore mildly lash out in a tantrum) when something is made special for me for a meal… instead of sharing the same not-so-healthy dishes with my family. It’s not rational or fair. It is *I* not *all of us* on this journey. I understand this in my mind… it’s just my heart that needs to learn. Lifestyle change right? Not just a diet.
He is my husband. I’ve been with him (before/after wedding) for almost 20 years. It is easy to rely on him. It is simple… He is a part of me.
I just need to work on relying on myself as a good source of support.
Weight update: I didn’t do as well as I hoped over these past two weeks. I enjoyed myself a little too much at a friend’s party. It is completely my own fault. Besides choosing the less healthy options, I also over ate. I knew that I had reached my fill limit. I just chose to ignore it. Why? I don’t know. As of my last weigh-in, I am now at 173.6 lbs. That is only down .2 since my last guest post.
As for my exercise/activity, I am not too pleased with myself on that front. I just haven’t figured out where to insert exercise into my day to day life. Early morning works best in theory… but when that alarm goes off, the only thing that gets a workout is the snooze button. So, with this week, I am starting a different motivation method. If I don’t get up to do exercise in the morning, I need to do an hour worth of housework to make up for it. The main bathroom has been cleaned under this new plan.
Thank you for sharing part of this struggle with us today! I agree about trying to fit in a the activity part of the process. On days that I don’t have to be at the pool, all I want to do is veg out.
If you’d like to share your personal journey with weight loss, please let me know. The more the merrier! None of us are in this alone.