Survey says! My Southern belle name is

southern belle

Daisy May: People sometimes done take you as seriously as they should. You may not be very assertive, but you are insightful, especially when it comes to how others feel. Your thoughtfulness and kindness always come through when people need it most, which makes you a valuable friend! You should have been a Daisy May.

Okay then. I don’t know how many people would agree that I’m not very assertive, but I’m hopeful the rest is true and I sure do try!

If you want to see your Southern Belle name, you can play here.

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Coffee Date


Some days after work Mother Nature offers me the perfect skies complete with friends.
Do you see the turtle?

Hey there! Fancy running into you here.

How’s it going? How have you been? That summer sun-kissed skin is a lovely look for you!

What’s in your cup? Today I have the usual of Chocolate Donut with Coconut Creamer. I know it’s getting a little boring, but I’m just not ready for the cinnamon fall coffees yet. (Note I said cinnamon, not pumpkin spice!) I’ve also paired it with some gluten free fig cookies and some of my finest liquid-gel Advil.

Living it up over here, that’s for sure.

I’m still on the fence about these fig cookies. They’re not a Fig Newton that’s for sure, but they’re not terrible. Just a little, dense? (For those of you not familiar with gluten free baked goods, they’re often a little dry or dense. I get the hiccups every time I eat a gf roll.)

Anyway, it’s close and I didn’t have to make it myself.

I’ve been trying to get the eating back under control after going hog wild when my cousins were in town and literally eating our way through the Capital District but a girl has to have a treat now and then. Have you tried any new treats lately? Do tell me about them!

Well I should get going, going to refill my cup with Decaf and be on my way for the day. I hope you have a lovely day and weekend! Anything fun planned?

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Thursday Three – Things I still want to do this summer

Thank you to everyone who reached out yesterday, to my dear jerk friend who messaged me with, “It’s about time oh strong one.”, and for all the comments, virtual hugs, and love. I told you, I have an incredible support system and am dearly loved.


From last summer’s water balloon fight.

I was driving to work today and saw that one of the trees by my work Target (as opposed to my house Target or gym Target) was already totally red. It’s a beautiful color and I’ll try to get a picture of it.

Today there was too much traffic and I was running late thanks to construction I forgot about.

It made me think how the hot summer days will soon be coming to an end (and then come back again for a week because October is weird around here) but that summer is almost over. Well, we have a solid month to go plus probably 6-8 weeks of really decent weather after that. I’m going to try to make the most of it.

Some things I’d like to do some more of before it gets too chilly

  1. Spend more time by the water. I don’t know if it’s just who I am or what, but by the water is hands down one of the best places for me to be. I think it always has been. Unwinding, recentering, just being, water works for me. It seems to work better with natural water (lakes, rivers, creeks etc) but man made is just fine.
  2. Have a water balloon fight with some of my favorite kiddos. Maybe eat too many ice pops. Make smores by the fire. Get more ice cream before it seems silly. Run around barefoot. Maybe see some more fireworks, play mini golf or drive some go carts. Basically, channel my inner kid.
  3. Enjoy this semblance of a tan I have going on before it invariably reverts back to my pasty white pallor. I think I have more of a tan now than I’ve had in years. I’ve also been outside a heck of a lot more – yard work, going to the fair, playing in the garden out in the country and chasing kiddos around. The sun has done a lot for me this summer 🙂 Sure there’s been a few burns, but that’s what the Solarcane in the fridge is for!

Panoramic view from my chair by the water

What do you want to do before fall sets in with it’s cooler temps and pumpkin spice flavored everything?

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It finally caught up to me.

2017-08-16_10-46-48It hit me about 9:200am at my desk. An overwhelming set of hot tears dripping off my face while I silently sobbed for a solid 20 min at my desk.

I had just read a text from my brother thanking me for letting him know that a mutual friend of ours mother had passed yesterday.

Just because it was expected doesn’t make it any easier other than to know she’s free of pain. I didn’t know her, but her daughter is a good friend and I’m heart broken for her.

I hate having to be the one to tell him these things. Really, what I hate is telling anyone someone they care about is gone. Or that someone they care about lost someone close. I’d rather tell him than have him not know. I think that’s worse.

There’s been a lot of loss in the last month and it caught up to me. My dear friend’s husband (who was also a dear friend), my childhood best friend’s grandmother (which brought up a lot of feelings surrounding my own grandmothers’ passings and missing them), and now this. (This doesn’t even include the people I heard about but didn’t know or wasn’t close to the person who lost someone. I feel for them, too.)

It doesn’t even include the heart ache or the anger for the terrible things going on in this country right now, but that’s a whole other post that I may or may not ever write.

Now it’s time to start dealing with the emotions and not just putting my head down and one foot in front of the other, soldiering on. I still don’t really have the time to do so, but now I don’t really have the option.

I know I’ll be okay. I have a great support system, physical labor to do, and know that I’ve gotten through stuff before. There are joys and beauty to focus on still and damn it, I see them. I just have to process the rest too.

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Coffee Date


Yes celebrate.
(recycled photo)

Thank you so much for joining me for coffee today! I get to have a regular cup and then anything else has to be decaf (including tea). I suspect there’s an ice coffee in my future from a local gas station.

What’s in your cup today?

I found a cinnamon sugar cookie k-like cup in my desk so I made that today with some coconut creamer.

So, I don’t know about where you live, but around here, County Fair season has started. This weekend I’ll be checking out the Sunshine County Fair. I love rides, some of the games, and fair food. It’s just a shame that my favorites aren’t gluten free. Man I miss funnel cakes, corn dogs, pizza cones, hot pretzels, curly fries etc. If I find something that is? All bets are off.

Yes I technically CAN make all of that at home. No, I don’t usually do it. I don’t have a deep fryer, regardless of my Amazon Prime status, I just can’t pull that trigger. I would deep fry all the things to eat! It’s just better I not have one right now.

You know what else I really love at the fair? This might surprise you…The Demolition Derby. If you’ve never been to one, it’s basically an open pit of people driving their cars into one another until only one is left moving. One might think that someone who has had a car accident such as mine years ago would shy away from such things. You’d be wrong. It’s great fun.

What is your favorite part of the fair? I’m hoping for a caramel apple and some rides that leave me feeling spatially disoriented. They’re my favorite.

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Thursday Three: Things I’ve tried recently that were actually pretty good


Lunch when I forgot to bring it a few weeks ago. 

I know yesterday’s post was a little heavy. Sometimes life is a little heavy. Shrug – it happens, we deal, put one foot in front of another and move along as best as we can.

Part of me moving along as best as I can is getting back to what “normal” looks like for me, even if it’s a new normal.

Normal for me for a long time has meant blogging and sharing – even the random stuff. I think the random stuff is the most fun, but sharing what’s going on.

I thought today I’d share some things I’ve tried lately that I discovered are either not as bad as I thought or pretty darn good:

  1. Decaf coffee – I know I know. Decaf is for people we hate! But my doctor told me I drink too much caffeine (this might be true, I’m not going to debate the merits of this statement) and I should try to limit how much I’m drinking. Thing is, I LOVE coffee itself, so I switched to decaf after my first cup. It’s not as bad as I thought.
  2. Cottage cheese with fruit – I have no idea why, but a couple of weeks back I impulsively bought Muuna pineapple to try at lunch. Courtney had written about it and said it was delicious, but I don’t know why I just had to have it that day in the store. I’m a Greek yogurt girl! Well I bought it and I don’t regret it. I always thought cottage cheese was gross, but the small, soft curd is really pretty good. (I’ve had some tweets with the company and while I offered to taste test some, today’s mention is all on me.)
  3. Beets – I don’t know why I didn’t like these before, maybe it was how they were prepped? I don’t think either of my parents eat them so we never had them as kids. I’ve had beet greens in salads before (that’s really good, they’re sweet) but other than beets in an occasional dish, hadn’t really had them. Well, I tried them recently – I think they were roasted in olive oil – and they were really good!

I’ve always said I’m game for trying new things, but maybe I need to up that a little. What have  you tried lately that was unexpectedly really good?

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201ish hours later…

I don’t even know where to start. The last 201-ish hours (as of writing this post) seems like an entire lifetime ago. When you lose a dear friend and are holding another dear friend up and navigating grief it might be a whole lifetime. I don’t know.

I know that in the past 201-ish hours I’ve fielded thousands of texts, probably hundreds of phone calls, traded a billion used tissues for clean ones, and many more things I don’t even remember.

I’ll never forget that phone call from the neighbor, the sound of my friend crying, or the kindness the police showed us that day. I’ll never forget the view of the people on my friend’s front lawn in a show of support and love. The gratitude of that moment is a warm feeling in my heart that almost made it burst. I won’t forget my friend’s brother’s response when I had to call him to tell him what happened or how he hugged me and thanked me for being the one to do it. I won’t forget the kids’ reaction to me picking them up, but then the fun we had at the pool and the laughs and splashing or the way they conked out that night.

There’s so much about his past week that I’ll ever forget, but so much that I’ve already forgotten.

I haven’t processed much of what’s gone down yet. I suspect I’ll start once it feels “normal” and my friend is on much better footing. Just know that I’m okay. I really am.

I won’t be able to remember or thank each and every person who has shown my friend and myself such kindness in the last 201-ish hours but I’d like to thank the universe for putting them in our path and all the other ways it’s taken care of us this past week while we’ve navigated this tragic situation this far.

I don’t know if I’ll write more about this or not but if I don’t it’s not because I don’t want to, its because it’s not fully my story to tell. Comments have been turned off but you can always reach me at bakinginmybathingsuit(at)gmail(dot)com.





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Survey Says –Which 40s Leading Lady are you?


“The iconic 40s woman that you are most like is Lana Turner! Much like Ms. Turner, you’re a natural born adventurer. You like to travel, explore new cultures, and immerse yourself in different experiences. You can quite easily feel bored if stuck in one place.”

I don’t know who this broad is, but holy hell it’s spot on. I’m always up for something new, an adventure, and being stuck is one of the worst places for me to be.

You can see yours here.

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The post I was writing deleted itself.



Has that happened to you before? You’re writing something and then it freezes and deletes? Ctrl Z didn’t work and I couldn’t find it in the drafts. Harumph.

I suppose that means it didn’t want to get posted.

I’m not going to try to recreate it. Honestly it probably wasn’t all that good, but it talked about my creativity being zapped by the paycheck and house stuff, a bit about the wedding weekend being super fun, and had some fun pics I’ve taken lately.

While I sort out what I want to do with this space – let it go, rebrand and relaunch, just rename, etc – I’ve been focusing on living more in the moment still and documenting less.

Sometimes it’s still worth it to stop and take the picture.


Late evening haze in the valley


Post wedding weekend pea picking


Me and Momma

I’m not making any decisions about this space just yet, but I know that it doesn’t feel like it fits anymore. I’ve started moving other things to AllThingsCourtneyRyan where I’ll likely combine the crafting and this space into one place. Or maybe not. I don’t know.

What would you like to see more of if anything?

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Survey Says –What’s your calling?


Courtney, you should actually be a CEO! You are unbelievably intelligent and quick-witted. You can solve any problem in seconds. Everyone wants to be as talented as you!.”

Oh I don’t know if I want to be the CEO though. That’s a lot of pressure. I am generally decent at problem solving…

You can see yours here.

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